Research shows that roughly 40 million American singles use online dating and social networking sites to meet new people. Approximately 13.5 million Americans using online dating services are married. If you are serious about finding your true love in an online dating service, make sure you don’t deal with married people.
These are the indicators that the man you met through the dating site is married:
1. He's never around during Sundays or holidays. Holidays are spent with the family. You can’t be together on Valentine’s Day. You would either have a date before or after that day.
2. He’s usually not available during late nights every night during the week. He can’t call you, and you can’t get him on the phone. He tells you he goes to bed early so he can go to work early.
3. He can’t stay long on the phone during late nights and his voice is either muffled, or almost whispering when he answers your call.
4. You’ve never been to his house. You haven’t met his Mom, and his other close relatives. These people usually won’t consent to infidelities so he won’t introduce his mistress (you) to them.
5. There’s a tan-line, a sign, that a ring was recently taken off his ring finger.
6. He selects the places you go to. These are usually out of town, never near his place of residence or office. He gives strange reasons for not wanting to go to certain places, parks, restaurants, or public places.
7. He doesn’t or refuses to give you his home phone number. You only have his cellphone and wireless land phone.
8. Sometimes he will not answer his cellphone when you are together. If a certain call becomes repetitive and constant, he gives an excuse that the phone signal is weak so he has to go out or walk farther away from you to get a better signal. You don’t hear him talking on the phone. When he returns, you sense that he is no longer focused, a little distracted, anxious, or even hurried. Was it the wife asking him to get some groceries and bring them home? Is there a family emergency?
9. If he restrains you from hard kissing or soft-biting his ears, lips, chin, or neck, he doesn’t want kiss marks to appear on his skin. Only a married man won’t want to show off his kiss marks.
10. He uses cash (never credit cards) to pay for your restaurant bills, resorts, airline tickets, and shops so that his expense activities won’t show on the billing statements that are sent to the home address.
11. There are times when you don’t hear from him at all so you get a little worried and try to call him on his phone. There’s no answer. You become even more worried. That’s the time he will call and tell you: “Love, I will explain later..Don’t worry.” (Was he dealing with guilty feelings?)
12. His wallet contains a picture of children or a woman with children.
13. His lovemaking is the best you’ve ever had. Of course, he has the necessary experience, and he does his best to compensate for certain things—such as the marriage that he will never be able to offer. He wants you to become addicted to him, so you’d find it extremely difficult to want another man, not even a unattached guy.
14. He alludes to “things he will tell you later.” There’s an air of mystery in him. It’s something that enchants you even more.
15. When you become suspicious, or he senses that you are starting to get suspicious, he will confess that he’s …been wanting to tell you about the truth—that he is married—but just couldn’t find the right time to do it. He apologizes and gets even more romantic, solicitous, and wonderfully attentive. This stage of confession happens only after he senses that you are already deliriously in love with him. After all, he has been hearing you moan your ecstatic appreciation of his great lovemaking.
Don’t wait for this confession stage to happen. By that time it could already be too late. If you become suspicious of a guy’s status, do some research immediately to confirm your gut feeling. Marriages are public records and quite easy to obtain.
Then don’t become involved with him anymore. Otherwise, you’d ruin your chances of meeting the right guy. - Maria Francia Bengco
